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10 Best Parenting Books Every Mom and Dad Should Read

I love reading and researching. When I was pregnant with my first son, I had a stack of about 20 different books on pregnancy, delivery, and caring for newborns stacked on my nightstand. I poured over them, trying to gather as much information as I could to feel confident and ready to enter into world of Motherhood. I quickly learned that all of the research and books in the world could not prepare me for what it would be like to actually be a Mom.

I also found that all of the information in these parenting books was conflicting. One book told me to let my baby “cry it out,” while another book told me to co-sleep. One book said to use “1-2-3- Magic” and another said this tactic is ineffective. The more I read, the more confused I became. At one point, I literally felt paralyzed by all of the different advice I was reading and didn’t know what to believe anymore.

10 Parenting Books Every Mom & Dad Should Read

I decided to let my heart guide me more in my parenting choices, and to only read books that aligned with my core beliefs about attachment, gentle parenting, positive discipline, and no-cry sleep solutions. I also cleaned off my bookshelf and left just the top ten parenting books that I frequently turned to for guidance since becoming a Mom 6 years ago. Three children later, and I can honestly say that these ten books are the backbones that have shaped who I am as a parent today.

These are the types of books you will read, re-read, highlight, and be able to flip open to a favourite chapter or line when you need it. Even on my worst days as a Mom (because we all have those days when we mess it up), just knowing that I have these books as a resource to turn to provides me the confidence to get myself back on track.

Hold On To Your Kids by Gorden Neufeld

This book is a must read for all parents and caregivers. It addresses the growing trend of “peer orientation” where kids and teens are looking to their peers instead of their parents (or other appropriate authority figures) for direction on behaviour, their identity, values, and more.

You’ll learn strategies to foster the important attachment relationship with your children, how to win back this vital connection if it has been lost, and how to maintain this bond of trust and security so that your kids will feel safe enough to come to you with the big issues they face down the road.

The No Cry Sleep Solution by Elizabeth Pantley

This was one of the first parenting books I read as a new Mama. Sleep deprived, but looking for an alternative to the Ferber method of sleep training (a.k.a. crying it out), I stumbled across this book.

Whether you are a co-sleeping family, transitioning baby into the crib, or looking to minimize multiple night-time wakings, this book has got you covered. There are gentle, no-cry solutions for whatever sleep situation you may find yourself in and they are simple, yet ultra effective.

I was so impressed with this book that I also bought The No Cry Nap Solution and The No Cry Sleep Solution for Toddlers and Preschoolers.

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Communication is key in the parent-child relationship, yet it is often a huge source of conflict and stress. Well-meaning parents who are just trying to be heard often resort to yelling, threats, and punishment when children appear to be deaf or defiant to whatever message is being spoken.

Likewise, children often want to talk at inopportune times (during your conversation with your spouse, bedtime, or while you are engaged in some important task), and are met with reprimand or “not now, I’m busy.” In this book, you’ll learn problem solving methods and relationship building strategies including how to:

Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Deborah MacNamara 

Preschoolers are one of the most misunderstood age categories, with the capacity to go from happy and playing to screaming and rage in seconds. Have you ever silently wondered if there is something wrong with your child? Maybe an underlying diagnosis or disorder that might explain this erratic behaviour? 

Being the parent of a preschooler can be exhausting and frustrating, and it can be easy to wish away these precious years. Understanding that their behaviour is not personal or vindictive, and is actually a normal part of child development can really help us as parents to change the way we relate to our little ones.

Parenting preschoolers doesn’t have to be a painful process. This book will help you to understand and relate to your preschooler, and embrace the vital role that you play in helping your little one thrive and flourish during their formative years.

Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Fighting, bickering, hitting, pushing, jealousy, competition, trying to prove to themselves (and each other) that they are important and loved equally by their parents. As the parent of three young children, I can attest to the battles (more like WWIII in our home) that can take place between siblings. 

If you are also the parent of siblings who fight, you probably just wish that your children would get along. Actually showing each other love and being friends can seem way out of reach, but it doesn’t have to be.

This book is a must read for parents of siblings. It provides parents with the practical tools needed to minimize conflict and competition, foster cooperation and friendship, and teaches how it can be possible to treat children unequally while still being fair. 

The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell

When David and I were newly married, we read The Five Love Languages  (the adult version) and were surprised to learn that our love languages differed. While I loved acts of service and gifts, David preferred physical touch and words of affirmation. We tend to show love in the way we like to receive love, but if the other person’s love language is different then they won’t feel loved no matter how much we are trying to show it

Children are no different. They have their own unique love languages, and discovering how your children prefer to be loved can be an indispensable parenting tool. If you have one child who prefers physical touch, one who wants quality time, and one who likes acts of service, you can plan your day to include some snuggle time with child #1, individual play time with child #2, and help to straighten up child #3’s bedroom while they are at school. Not only will you be removing a lot of the guilt you feel for not being able to do it all for each child, but you’ll be filling their little love tanks which goes a long way in gaining their cooperation and trust when you need it. 

This book will guide you through discovering your child’s love language, teach you how to use this information to discipline more effectively, and provide you with practical tips and ideas on how to speak your child’s love language so you can build a bond with your child to last a lifetime. 

 

Which book are you going to read first? Leave us a comment below and let us know! 

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·      Cope with your child’s negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment
·      Express your strong feelings without being hurtful
·      Engage your child’s willing cooperation
·      Set firm limits and maintain goodwill
·      Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline
·      Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise
·      Resolve family conflicts peacefully

The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel

This is one of those books that I wish I had read years ago, before I even became a Mom. The concepts in this books are so crucial to understanding how our child’s developing brain impacts their behaviour and how to use this information to parent effectively. 

This easy to read book is full of age-appropriate strategies for managing everyday struggles and even comes with comic-strip illustrations to teach these same concepts to your child. You’ll learn how to foster healthy emotional and intellectual development so that both you and your children can lead calmer, happier and balanced lives.

No Bad Kids by Janet Lansbury

Every parent knows that the toddler years can bring many challenging behaviours and for most parents, this is when discipline begins. Frustrated parents and caregivers often find themselves at a loss on how to use a loving and respectful approach when toddlers are developmentally obligated to test every limit and push every boundary.

Topics covered include tantrums, toddler aggression, punishment, gaining cooperation and so much more. This book will provide you with the tools and resources you need to confidently navigate the toddler years, all the while establishing a bond of trust and mutual respect with the little person in your life.

The Explosive Child by Ross Greene 

Some children have very low frustration tolerance and are more prone to outbursts over seemingly routine situations. Their anger and frustration often lead to challenging behaviours including hitting, kicking, biting, spitting, screaming, swearing, and full on temper tantrums even beyond the toddler and preschool years. We have experienced this first-hand with one of our children and this books was truly a lifesaver.

We learned that traditional parenting with punishments and rewards will not work with these children who are lacking skills in the areas of flexibility/adaptability, frustration tolerance, and problem solving. When we as parents are able to identify these lacking emotional skills, we no longer view the behaviour as attention seeking or manipulative and are able to empathize and connect with our child.

This book teaches parents a collaborative problem solving model that will help them to teach their child the skills they need to manage their frustration and prevent explosions from happening. 

Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline by Becky Bailey

Most parents can agree that loving our children just comes naturally, but disciplining them can be incredibly stressful and hard. Oftentimes, we find ourselves instinctively parenting the way we were parented, even if that is not how we want to parent our own children.

It can be easy to fall into the trap of punishing children instead of teaching them (which is the entire point of discipline, “to disciple”). In this book, you will learn 7 powers for self control which teach parents how to model the behaviours they want to see in their children, 7 values for living and how to implement them, and 7 basic discipline skills to help manage problematic situations.

You’ll be guided through a 7 week program to help you easily implement the various techniques learned in the book and create a calmer, connected environment in your home.

Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Deborah MacNamara 

Preschoolers are one of the most misunderstood age categories, with the capacity to go from happy and playing to screaming and rage in seconds. Have you ever silently wondered if there is something wrong with your child? Maybe an underlying diagnosis or disorder that might explain this erratic behaviour? 

Being the parent of a preschooler can be exhausting and frustrating, and it can be easy to wish away these precious years. Understanding that their behaviour is not personal or vindictive, and is actually a normal part of child development can really help us as parents to change the way we relate to our little ones.

Parenting preschoolers doesn’t have to be a painful process. This book will help you to understand and relate to your preschooler, and embrace the vital role that you play in helping your little one thrive and flourish during their formative years.

Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish

Fighting, bickering, hitting, pushing, jealousy, competition, trying to prove to themselves (and each other) that they are important and loved equally by their parents. As the parent of three young children, I can attest to the battles (more like WWIII in our home) that can take place between siblings. 

If you are also the parent of siblings who fight, you probably just wish that your children would get along. Actually showing each other love and being friends can seem way out of reach, but it doesn’t have to be.

This book is a must read for parents of siblings. It provides parents with the practical tools needed to minimize conflict and competition, foster cooperation and friendship, and teaches how it can be possible to treat children unequally while still being fair. 

The 5 Love Languages of Children: The Secret to Loving Children Effectively by Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell

When David and I were newly married, we read The Five Love Languages  (the adult version) and were surprised to learn that our love languages differed. While I loved acts of service and gifts, David preferred physical touch and words of affirmation. We tend to show love in the way we like to receive love, but if the other person’s love language is different then they won’t feel loved no matter how much we are trying to show it

Children are no different. They have their own unique love languages, and discovering how your children prefer to be loved can be an indispensable parenting tool. If you have one child who prefers physical touch, one who wants quality time, and one who likes acts of service, you can plan your day to include some snuggle time with child #1, individual play time with child #2, and help to straighten up child #3’s bedroom while they are at school. Not only will you be removing a lot of the guilt you feel for not being able to do it all for each child, but you’ll be filling their little love tanks which goes a long way in gaining their cooperation and trust when you need it. 

This book will guide you through discovering your child’s love language, teach you how to use this information to discipline more effectively, and provide you with practical tips and ideas on how to speak your child’s love language so you can build a bond with your child to last a lifetime. 

 

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